Sunday, January 26, 2014
Why I Wanted a Non-Traditional Ring
When it came time for Josh and I to get engaged, I sent him a list of ring ideas that ranged from knot rings to large gemstone rings to sapphire rings. I thought I was being helpful, but it turns out, I was just being confusing. Because I hadn't actually figured out what I wanted, he had an even harder time imagining which ring to buy. When you tell your boyfriend, "I don't want a diamond," as I so often did, you should probably give him some clue as to why that is and what you would want instead.
I've known I didn't want a diamond for as long as I can remember. I was more fascinated by the emeralds on my grandmother's engagement ring than the clear stones, and I knew I wanted something understated. Don't get me wrong, I think to each their own, and if you want a diamond, get one. It just wasn't my thing. Before I ever saw Blood Diamond or heard about conflict areas in Africa, these gems just didn't move me like other stones. Sapphires on the other hand, were special to me. They're Josh's birth stone, they're just about as durable as a diamond, and they're beautiful.
Another big concern of mine was the size and expense of an engagement ring. After being with Josh for 8 years, we own a home together and our finances are intertwined completely. We make big purchase decisions together, and we're saving to make repairs on our home. Dropping several thousand dollars on a ring did not appeal to me. That still didn't narrow down what exactly it is I wanted, or how much I wanted us to spend.
When Josh proposed, he pulled out a ring he had given me years ago, that I wore all throughout my study abroad, and that meant a lot to me. This ring would have been fine, but we decided to purchase a new engagement ring together. We took a look at my Pinterest ring wish board, and I realized I had so many options, even I didn't know what to look for. So, we kept looking. Knowing my weird tastes, we didn't run out to a local jewelry store, we went to Etsy.
As we sat on our couch, surfing the internet for the "right" ring (which took us over an hour), we laughed about I had made things so confusing. We looked at page after page of sapphire rings in various sizes and prices, until finally, we saw this ring.
It was perfect. It was simple, inexpensive, but still of a high enough quality I would be happy with it. We contacted the seller, BeyondtheRockz, and asked for a few modifications. They responded quickly and happily, and my ring was on the way! When I got it, I was incredibly happy, and every day since I've grown more in love with it. It's perfect.
To everyone that knows me, the non-diamond engagement ring was no surprise. I didn't catch any funny looks or feel bad about it. Your ring should reflect who you are, and it should be something you're happy to wear. Just like your wedding, your ring is a very personal expression of your taste, and it doesn't have to be flashy or over the top to prove how much you love your partner.